discover why those who are brilliant, have a high EQ and a huge heart are quietly pained that relationships are hard. They’re not broken, and do not need fixing. They’re just undertrained. That’s what this relationship gym is for. Read it today. Use it tonight.
#1 reason your relationship doesn’t need better communication
this is not relationship coaching. It’s relationship performance training, but for the individual.
Not treatment, it’s training.
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Hi, I’m anna
anna shilina
Have you ever been the most self-aware person in the room, and still the loneliest?
Me too. For about twenty years.
I created the system and wrote the book I once needed.
Performance trainer for happy relationships.
Certified Lumina Spark practitioner.
Learned relationship coaching tools at the Gottman Institute.
Years of human behavior studies with Dr. John Demartini.
Before coaching Relating Intelligence, I built and exited a security business with almost 1,000 employees. So I know what it feels like to be brilliant at the hard things, and still find relationships hard.
Recovering seminar junkie. 14 years of travel, chasing summers and the most brilliant mentors in the world on humans and relationships.
Self-awareness turned out to be a front-row seat to my own struggles. More information was never the answer. I figured it out after I stopped trying to fix myself.
I needed intelligence.
Since I couldn't find it anywhere, I created it.
Relating Intelligence is the simple math of happy relationships. = one decision + 3 relationship ratios + nervous system capacity
It's not treatment. It's training. The relationship gym, where we build muscle instead of fixing what isn't broken.
Once I built it, I could finally have the deep, safe, nurturing relationships I had wanted for twenty years.
Today I am gifting you the whole thing, for free.
Because no one should struggle to figure out relationships like I once did.
All the very best,
Anna
this is for you if…
You've built a life that looks right from the outside.
And some nights you lie inches from the person you love, feeling completely alone.
You're brilliant at almost everything.
This is the one thing you haven't been able to figure out, which is its own particular kind of pain.
You've read the books, done the therapy, sat the retreats.
Your self-awareness went up. So did your loneliness.
You keep having the same fight.
Different night, same script, and you can watch it happening while it happens.
You work later and call it providing.
You solve her problems and call it listening.
You're quietly afraid of becoming one of your parents.
And some nights you hear them come out of your mouth.
You did the thing you promised you wouldn't do again.
And afterwards, in the quiet you couldn't outrun or outwork, something asked: is this just who I am?
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